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Tips to Build Your Child’s Confidence

Confidence is a difficult concept. It includes a feeling that you have that ability to learn and work hard to achieve a goal, but it also includes self-esteem – a feeling of self-worth and that you are happy with yourself.

For children, confidence comes from their parents – their influence, their attitude and their love.




Building your child’s confidence needs to be carefully balanced. An under-confident child is as likely to have problems as an over-confident one. You want your child to believe in their abilities and their worthiness, based on reality. That confidence will allow them to try new challenges, learn new things, and believe that their capabilities will lead them to success.

Love your child

Your child needs to know, first and foremost, that you love them – no matter what they achieve. Your love is not conditional on them coming first in class or winning a race, and it is not even dependent on their behavior. You may not approve of their behavior at times, but you still love them.


Give praise when it is earned, and always give positive encouragement. Too much praise can lead to your child only doing things for the praise they get, or not making any effort at all because every little thing they do is praised by their parents. Rather use positive feedback to encourage your child – “You tried really hard”, “I’m proud of you for the work you put into that picture” – than over-doing the praise. Try to criticize the behavior, not the child, when criticism is required.

Teach your child to handle mistakes and failure. Everyone fails some time, but by helping your child recognize where mistakes were made, and why, you help them realize that they can learn from their mistakes, and do better next time.


Your child needs to learn that effort and hard work are required in order to conquer new challenges, and that practice will help to develop their skills, whether in writing or catching a ball. This important lesson will prepare them for future challenges where they will have to exert themselves to achieve success.

Self-discipline is part and parcel of self-confidence, and you need to teach your child that they are in control of their actions. It is their choice whether they keep trying and succeed, or give up when the going gets tough.

Can do

A ‘can do’ attitude is very important. Encourage your child to try new things – hitting the ball with a bat, learning to count to 10, riding a bicycle and reading a sentence – whatever it is, tell your child you believe they can do it if they try hard and practice. Eventually, they’ll believe it too – and go out and do it.

A confident child is more likely to succeed at school, socially as well as academically. The confidence you help your child to build now will last the rest of their lives, and help them in their every endeavor. You can do it too!

Liz Allan



"My son Blair had an exceptional start in his primary and higher education which I soundly believe was due to his preschool grounding with Liz Allan's workbooks. He has now applied at university to become a veterinary surgeon and has been accepted."
Alison Cowie
Parent - Scotland


"The author of the pre-school books has been a positive influence in the lives of numerous individuals known to me. She taught my brother, my cousins children and my own son. The children in her care seem to learn various skills, such as mathematics, spelling, reading, fine and gross motor control, and general knowledge, to name a few, at a very fast rate. The author is able to assist young children in conceptualising and integrating themes and ideas vital for later school success. She has a way of making learning a fun experience for young children. Her vast experience and in-depth knowledge of the development of young children and teaching techniques is evident in the success of the children in her care over many years. I would not hesitate to recommend her as a pre-school teacher, as well as support any educational material that she creates."
Dr Natascha Pfeifer - PSYCHOLOGIST


"I arrived at Liz's pre-school when I was only 3 years old, now being a 20 year old Student Athlete studying at Wright State University in Dayton Ohio on a full scholarship, I have to attribute my success to this fantastic lady. Not only did her workbooks provide the foundation for my education but also sculpted the person I am today both in my morals and beliefs. Her constant motivation pushed me to higher levels in my sport( represented South Africa internationally in swimming). I strongly believe that I would not be in my current position in life if it were not for me having the privilege of being mentored by this remarkable person."
Davon Peffer
Student - USA


"Travelling for 40 kilometres every day for 8 years for my children to be with Liz was well worth the effort. Both my children have excelled in academics with awards in primary school, thanks mainly to the tuition Liz provided with her comprehensive worksheets. Without their excellent start with Liz, I am sure I would not be the proud mother of such clever, happy and successful children today."
Angela Warren
Parent - South Africa
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